HPG From Dallas
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Buffalo Six
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- Location: Wichita KS
HPG From Dallas
Guys, I am in Dallas and it looks like I will be here a while. My mom had a medical emergency and well I dont know how long I will be here. Slam, drop me a PM here cuz I dont have access to my email and stuff and I'll let you know whats going on. Hope all had a good thanksgiving.
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ELH~Lancer
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GlasgowCelts
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Buffalo Six
- Posts: 1489
- Joined: 11 Jul 2002, 17:26
- Location: Wichita KS
Hey guys, Thanks for the support, as corny as it sounds it does help. Some may know whats going on (I got on IRC last night and talk to a few of the guys) but I'll just lay it out. My mom tried to commit suicide. She took whatwe think was 5 bottles of valium (over 100 tablets) and some other stuff we think on Monday of last week. I got there Weds night for Thanksgiving and almost had to bust the door down to get in. I found her in her bed and it took like 10 minutes of me yelling at her to get any responce. I called EMS and they came and got her awake and off to the emergancy room. I was there all night and most of the next day. She got cleared from the Hospital yeasterday and we moved her to facility where they can help her and stuff. So far I have yet to talk to any doctor other than the ER doc so I am flying blind here and am in limbo. I think tomorrow she really starts what ever they do for people suffering like she is and I hope at that time to get to at least talk to someone about what I need to be doing and preparing to do. It's kind of freaky, but so far no one has talked to me about anything. If any one has had to god forbid deal with something like this let me know I welcome any insight. So far my plans are to be in Dallas this week and head back to KS next weekend and if I have to start driving down here for the weekends for however long is needed (it's only 6 hrs). I'm at my aunts place and she has access to the net (duh or I'd not be on here) but for now I dont have any access to my Email so if you need to leave me a message drop me aprivate message on here. I can and will pop into IRC to see whats up and I really want to get in a mech and blow shit up but right now I cant. Take care and I'll see ya'll soon
Gerry Owen!
Gerry Owen!
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GlasgowCelts
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Buff, so sorry to hear that mate, i have been in the same situation myself a few times with my own mum. She can and will get through it.
I dont think you can do much more than what you are planning to do to be honest. Alot depends on the circumstances that caused it. If it's a single incident, you can relate to it, go over it and work out exactly what troubled her so much that she felt she had to do this. If however it's a culmination of events, or the effects of a long term depression or other illness then it's much harder.
One of the things my brothers and sisters tried to do was to show my mum, not directly but more subconciously, the good things in life and what she would miss if she was gone. Grandchildren are a good place to start, if she has any it could be an idea to have them around her as much as possible. Or perhaps she had an activity that she enjoyed that she has given up now. Getting her to return to times, places etc in the past that she can relate to with positive thoughts should go some way to healing also. And dont be afraid to discuss what happened with her, shutting it away and not discussing it may lead to more depression cos she wont have the chance to get to the root of the problem. She will no doubt get support from the psychologists etc. Make sure they let you know exactly what is happening and what, specifically, you might be able to do to help.
As i said tho, most important is what you are planning to do anyway. Be there for her.
If you need a chat mate, fire me an email or get a hold of me on icq or something. Also, i doubt we are the only 2 to have gone through this in this Unit. Most people have someone close to them who have suffered also so it's good you have not decided to suffer in silence.
Glas
I dont think you can do much more than what you are planning to do to be honest. Alot depends on the circumstances that caused it. If it's a single incident, you can relate to it, go over it and work out exactly what troubled her so much that she felt she had to do this. If however it's a culmination of events, or the effects of a long term depression or other illness then it's much harder.
One of the things my brothers and sisters tried to do was to show my mum, not directly but more subconciously, the good things in life and what she would miss if she was gone. Grandchildren are a good place to start, if she has any it could be an idea to have them around her as much as possible. Or perhaps she had an activity that she enjoyed that she has given up now. Getting her to return to times, places etc in the past that she can relate to with positive thoughts should go some way to healing also. And dont be afraid to discuss what happened with her, shutting it away and not discussing it may lead to more depression cos she wont have the chance to get to the root of the problem. She will no doubt get support from the psychologists etc. Make sure they let you know exactly what is happening and what, specifically, you might be able to do to help.
As i said tho, most important is what you are planning to do anyway. Be there for her.
If you need a chat mate, fire me an email or get a hold of me on icq or something. Also, i doubt we are the only 2 to have gone through this in this Unit. Most people have someone close to them who have suffered also so it's good you have not decided to suffer in silence.
Glas